Indecisiveness in men vs women- The 4P’s technique to cope with indecision at work
Your day moves extremely fast. There are plenty of things pulling you from different directions. So, it is common to overlook the fact that there is a constant tug-of-war going on in the brain…about making choices…this or that or what else?
Some self- introspect on why are the days so stressful and why do we habitually say and feel that time is limited? The answer: Time is constant, the only variables standing as roadblocks in OUR day are indecisiveness and/or lack of information, most of the time. While information is available at the tip of our fingers these days, the only fugitive left to blame is the “INDECISIVENESS”.
The difference between “call it a day” or “call it quits” depends on how swiftly you make effective decisions.
Indecisiveness- men vs women
I, then, sternly began to probe more, if this habit can be attributed to only men or women (is it gender specific?). Because we often hear, women and indecision, particularly while shopping. I will reveal the answers gradually in the next segment of this article. So, keep reading.
Images courtesy: Here
From these pictures it’s evident that women spend more time, making/not-making a decision compared to men.
It’s due to long list of preferences and other factors like wanting things to be perfect, the anxiety that comes with “Is there a possibility of getting a better product somewhere else? Is it the right time to buy this? Am I paying too much? Is it effective?”.
On the other hand, men seem to make quicker decisions but without consideration to details and quality.
Who do you think is making a better decision? Look at the image below.
So, to make effective decisions, one must focus on quality and timeliness too. This is just a general example.
It does not mean women are indecisive at work, or men are more decisive. People operate differently when it comes to their work due to the control of external aspects.
Nevertheless, the concern affects everyone equally, when it is not addressed properly. So, let us learn what indecisiveness is.
What is indecisiveness???
Indecisiveness is a constant struggle to make a final call, or avoiding to decide with a fear of wrong decision, or just procrastinate due to an uncertain outcome. In all cases, we end up wasting time.
In a business case scenario, this translates to wastage of time and resources and also could be a huge loss to the company. That’s why “Decision-making” is one of the major traits people look for, in managers.
If, not-making decisions on time becomes a pattern, it soon slips into a chronic obsession, leading to stress and anxiety. It is therefore necessary to systematize this, and avoid becoming overly stressful.
To make it easier, I broke it down into segments PPPP – Purpose, Prioritizing, Planning, Perfection
The first vital part is to know the purpose of making a decision. Define the objective clearly. What are you trying to achieve? Who is the decision going to impact? How, when and where? Points to note before defining the purpose.
- Goal of the decision
- Who is it intended to impact
- Time limit
State it in your head or put it on paper, so you don’t deviate from the actual purpose.
The ability to make the right decisions gets disrupted by the inability to prioritize. Often employees at work face the situation, when you must choose between your tasks, your work and your friendly colleague, or between two clients etc. In such cases, we decide by prioritizing, based on,
- Right-thing to do
Ex: If you want to buy a bag, your priority is that. The availability of discounts on other products, checking out everything else are deviating factors. You end up buying many other things except the one you intended to buy.
This is exactly what the business owners are trying to capitalize on. By confusing the mind of a consumer, who lacks objective and focus.
While having everything at one place is surely benefiting and time-saving, it also comes with a price. The price is confusion and loss of time and money.
Hence, its important to remain focused on the objective to avoid meddling with unwanted factors.
Planning involves consideration of all the factors affecting/ benefiting the decision outcome. Organizing and aligning the analysis details orderly. It requires the power of foreseeing the final implications of our decision.
If you can visualize, guess the outcome, you are half way through the blockage. Do your analysis, but don’t get stuck in over analysis, or you end up being “Paralyzed by analysis”. Set your expectations, note the objective, make the analysis, do your calculations, and DECIDE.
A desire to see everything perfect, and wasting time until one reaches perfection is again another hitch. A good decision made in time is far better than, a perfect decision made later. Few things to remember here
- Good = perfect
- Don’t do exhaustive, over- analysis
- Apply the priority principle
- Rule out negative thoughts of failing
- Once the decision is made do not rethink
- Trust your gut, its brainier than your brain!
Time spent on making decisions:
Roughly about 6 hours per week is spent on making typical everyday decisions like what to wear, when to go, what to eat, cook, which route to take, to attend a party or not and it’s a total different phase when on social media. Although it is said that the average attention span is 7-8 secs on social media, we periodically end up on it, trying to avoid making decisions in real life.
Also think about people from various professions like doctors, scientists, pilots who must make spur-of-the moment decisions. All they do is believe in their conscience, their previous knowledge and experience, perform mental calculations and foresee the outcome, before they DECIDE. All of this in a matter of seconds.
Safely, we have plenty of time to address our indecisiveness in general or in career.
The psychology of indecisiveness
Psychology states that, general indecisiveness is different from career indecision. If general indecisiveness becomes a habit, that’s when it turns out to be an obsession or “Aboulomania”, making you indecisive in career too.
The primary step is to even be aware that you suffer from indecision. Do some self-introspection, see if your stress is due to lack of decisiveness. Start with the 4Ps concept, try to make snap decisions. It surely gives some confidence. Avoid analysis-paralysis. Be positive. Avoid rethinking once the decision is made.
Experience comes from working and making mistakes.
Just the same with decisions, decisiveness comes with making decisions and not waiting or wasting time to make a perfect one.
The difference between “call it a day” or “call it quits” depends on how swiftly you make effective decisions. So, the golden rule is “Good means Perfect!”
So go ahead, make the final call!!